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| Sunday, November 21, 2004 |
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I have always had the "big sister" mentality (that's generally what happens when you're the big sister). The "I can beat my brother up but if you touch him, I'll kill you" attitude (that did kind of changed when he got bigger then me though...). As for my younger sisters, guys beware. However, in the past few months I have noticed these feelings getting a little stronger. Maybe that is because I have been developing closer ties with my siblings or maybe because they are getting older. The second my brother starts talking about some girl - "*insert girl's name* gave me a ride home" - I begin my inquistion: "Who's that?" "What's she like?" "Do you like her?" "Is she a devil worshipper?" You know, the important things. And right then and there I decide I need to keep my eye open for this girl. I am even worse when some girl comes running up to my brother to give him a hug (and at my church - girls tend to be huggy). I look at that girl like, "Oh no you didn'!" Then my bro introduces her and I have to be all polite. Blah. The same goes for my sisters and their guy friends - but thankfully, I can be a little more openly hostile to the guys and everything is okay.
However, those kind of girls (and guys for my sisters) are everyday troubles. I can handle those. The worst thing is the other kind of girls. Not the ones my brother drags in but the ones who come tripping into the house arm in arm with my sisters. Their "friends." I have never had the best of luck with girl friends. Not really sure why but it just not seem to work out very well. I, of course, of tons of theories but that can be for a different post if I ever open up that much on this blog. While I have been able to live (I wouldn't say "deal") with my friends making a fool of me and using me, I cannot stand to see my sisters' friends doing that to them. Unbeknownst to most of you, patience is actually not my middle name. My brother's favorite song to sing to me is actually "Patience is a virtue, virtue is a grace..." I have no patience for girls who think they can push my sisters around. Maybe they do not realize they are doing it or maybe my sisters are not aware it is happening, but there is no way in hell those girls are going to get away with it. However, this can present a problem: it generally embarrases my sisters.
Let me give an example. Tonight, L had one of her good friends come over. She has been trying to put forth an effort to continue hanging out with H since H got a boyfriend and pretty much dropped all her friends. So H comes over, the two of them hang out for a while and everything is honky dory, however, when I get home (around midnight) H is on the phone with her boyfriend! And has been for the past 15 minutes. They continue talking for another 15 minutes while my sister sits there and listens. How rude is that?? I nearly flipped. Finally my dad walked over and told her to get off the phone. That set me off on this chain of thinking. What really bothered me is when we (my dad and I) tried to show my sister how H was just using her to talk to her boyfriend (who, btw, had come over to our house with H for a while anyway), L just defended her. I guess that is what a good friend should do... but grrr! From personal experience I know what it feels like to be the good friend in a relationship and have the other "good" friend simply take advantage of that.
Maybe I am just being over protective and do not want to see my siblings get hurt. I know that a lot of life is learned through pain but I would hope that there was some way for me to be the one who got hurt and for them to learn from it.
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